The Book
Stop restarting. Start becoming.
The Agreements That Run Your Life: How an Unproven Allegation Becomes an Identity Verdict, and How to Reopen the Case
A raw, honest story of rebuilding a body, mind, and identity, from nearly 345 pounds to a different life at sea.
This is not a diet book. It is the story of what happened when I stopped trying to force change from the outside and started confronting the identity underneath the patterns.
If you are tired of promises, restarts, and feeling like you should know better by now, this book will help you look at the story you have been living, and question whether it still has to be true.
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Why I wrote it
Because the weight was never the real problem.
Every plan I tried worked for a while. None of them touched the agreements I had made with myself about what I was capable of, what I deserved, and who I would always be.
I wrote this book for adults who are done being managed by those agreements. It walks through how to name the conclusions you made about yourself, test whether they are actually true, and then deliberately build a different reality.
What is inside
What you will walk away with.
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The real story behind the transformation
Nearly 345 pounds, years of restarting, and the moment the excuses stopped working.
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The agreements that kept me stuck
The quiet conclusions I had made about who I was, and how they ran my choices for years.
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The turning points that changed behavior
Not motivation. The specific shifts that made different action feel possible.
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Reflections you can use
Honest questions to turn on your own patterns instead of on yourself.
Continue the work
Finished the book? Take the free Identity Audit.
Six honest questions and a personalized coach briefing showing you the pattern underneath everything.